I took quite a long break from blogging. One outstanding topic stayed the same for me over the period of time: forgiving. I have done a lot of work recently, mostly invisible, inner workouts. Living up to my own concept of life direction I was in a permanent dialogue with my inner director, too. While everywhere around an economic “Voldemort” gained power in our lives and in the media – okay, pssst, its real name is Cris(is) and each time we focus on Cris, it will grow a bit larger – my inner life director and I decided to focus on the book “The Shack” by William P. Young. I warmly recommend it to everybody who is longing for a spiritual attendance in these demanding days and for comfort in her or his issues. This book will most likely match all your needs. Well, it certainly matched mine.
The processes I went through were emotionally intense. They were at some points painful. But over all they were healing and very powerful. You know what I thought? Cris(is) has come in our life to give us some time to think and reflect where we stand today: in a lot of aspects. Okay, it also gives us a lot of opportunities to be scared, to have fears and develop horror sceneries. We decide what focus we have.
I think that work-life-balance is more important than ever. In times of chaos clarity is essential. Where do you stand today? Where do you stand now in this very moment? I learned that a way of feeling more at ease was inside myself. “The Shack” opened inner doors that were ready to be opened now.
Being the director of my own life has one very important aspect for me. That is the script reading part. Reading books of all kinds and “digesting” them really is essential for me. It is my way of life long learning. A friend of mine once said to me: “Sandra, I have known nobody else who gets so much out of reading books like you do. It is as if you get your essence out of the thoughts and experiences of others immediately.” I felt very honoured by that feedback. And yes, this is a quality I really have. Before my friend told me that I had not realised that this was a true gift. From childhood on I loved books. In Berlin I like to go to my favourite book shop and just let a book “find me”. You can either buy the books or sit in a cosy lounge and just read. Have you ever tried to let a book find you? It is great and can turn out to become a real miracle…
When I write I do it with the spirit of a reader. I believe that my readers may find their own essences. Feedbacks affirm this.
Cris(is) may give you free time to go and let a precious book find you. We can embrace Cris(is) for this.
Sometimes issues pop up in our life by accident. To say sorry and to ask for forgiveness have been such issues recently. ”What to do when you run out of life time” – a German magazine’s title story – added some more thoughts to it. Who felt hurt by things we did or said, by things we left undone or unsaid? Does this bother us unconsciously or even consciously? To take stock can free ourselves (I mean everyday injury, heavy guilt in my eyes is something else.)
Does the process of saying sorry depend on the forgiveness of the other person? Or is it more a matter of taking over responisibilty for a hurting situation, for the own acting and talking that another person felt hurt by? Most of the time we are out of balance ourselves when we strike back or overreact. Both, the withdrawal into the hurting as well as the withdrawal into the feeling hurt is the end of dialogue and communication. It is a sign of power struggle in which always both sides lose.
In my experience the expression of a truely felt sorry has a freeing effect – no matter whether or not our counterpart forgives us. To forgive someone also needs the ability to forgive oneself and the ability to voluntarily leave the “victim mode” of the hurt person. Both people created the situation.
Are there people you’d like to say sorry to?
How high is the prize, what is your risk to do so and to put out your hand?
Is there someone you coud talk to today and say sorry right away?
What makes it hard?
What holds you back?
What is it you risk to lose, what is it can you win?
Even if your “sorry” is like beating your head against a stone wall – it is precious because it is a sign to end the power struggle. A truely felt sorry has a wonderful energy.
What do you think? Is coaching a kind of therapy? Is it expensive and long lasting to provide the coaches’ living? I created new slides on some – as I see it – errors about coaching. In Germany coaching is a service that still needs some explanations. Many people think in terms of “I am adviced what to do…”
What experiences do you have? I appreciate your sharing it with us.
Tonight I had my alarm clock set at 2:30 a.m. The reason was the blogradio show Today’s Author. You are very welcome to listen to this interview. Just follow the button link. It was a pleasure to be on David K. Ewen’s show and I was really amazed how fast those 15 minutes were over.
To mark the occasion there comes a special offer with this event until January 31: 8,80 US-Dollar or 6 Euro off the normal price. Of course the donation for orphans and abandoned children stays the same: 2 Euro or 3 US-Dollar per sold book or e-book copy.
On 13th of December I received a powerpoint presentation with the title “The Art of Being Well”. This made me think a lot over the weekend. The text is about “If you don’t want to be ill…”.
I believe in the 7 Huna principles, especailly MAKIA – energy flows where the attention goes. “If I don’t want to be ill” is a negation that focusses me on illness and disease. What if I love to be healthy instead? The Art of Being Well inspired me to create a new presentation. It starts with “If you love to be healthy…” and it does without diseases. I will upload the link for you as soon as I have the permission to use the photos I chose.
Do you think that language makes a difference? Do you use a lot of negations in your everday language? Do you agree on the difference I feel and see? Do you have a different opinion? I am happy to learn about it.
Have a healthy and wonderful week before Christmas
Review by Dr. Susan L. Reid,
author of “Discovering Your Inner Samurai:
The Entreprenurial Woman’s Guide to Business Success”
Interesting and provocative! Sandra has put together a guide to personal script writing that will change your life.
With you in the director’s chair, all things are possible.
A power-shot of inner wisdom that will catapult your success!
My Lulu print version arrived today. Here is the link.
I am looking forward to feedbacks on the book. More than one person told me that it had a life changing impact… I am happy about it. My purpose is: to support others in supporting themselves.
Dialogue-Scripting is a coaching tool that I derived from screenplay writing. It is a method to analyze difficult communication situations in order to improve your performance in the long run. In the German bestselling book “Coaching-Tools II – Successful coaches present techniques of intervention from their practice” it is introduced. You will also find it in my English e-book.
What if you literally see your life as a movie? Screenplays are mainly based on dialogues. That gives you a big chance to work on yours and thus improve your experiences. Does that sound too simple? Well, my experience is that it is that simple. We tend to think that it is hard to change something in our life. It is hard because we think it is. We also have the choice to change something in a playful and easy way.
My name is Sandra. I am a writer and business coach from Germany. I am looking forward to blogging with you.
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Interesting and provocative!
Sandra has put together a guide to personal script writing that will change your life. With you in the director’s chair, all things are possible. A power-shot of inner wisdom that will catapult your success!
Dr. Susan L. Reid
Author of “Discovering Your Inner Samurai: The Entrepreneurial Woman’s Guide to Business Success”
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