FastForward – FF! is a tool you can use to fast-forward your life movie to get across a point of momentary crisis. This method enables you to see some future light again in what feels all dark in the actual situation.
A father of a 17 years old daughter lost his well paid job. His wife had died one year before that. Loss was an actual and permanent issue in this man’s life at that point. His daughter had her teenage issues at the same time and the man felt overwhelmed to cope with all that. So in a typical fight situation he yelled at his daughter to go overseas as an exchange student. In that very moment he did not realize what his words evoked.
His daughter really did what he had “proposed” out of a feeling of anger and frustration. She left him and her home to join an exchange student program. From there she wrote him a letter that she will move out after her return in one year. Now the father felt completely desperate. He did not see any sense in his life at that point.
With his coach he used the tool FF! First he fast-forwarded “his movie” pretty far to a (imagined) time and scenario when his daughter had her first baby, his first grandchild. He and his daughter spent time together with the little child. Their love had outlived the hard times. That gave him comfort and new confidence.
Next time his travel with his coach led him to a time that was closer to the present. He visited his daughter who was a university student in another city. Again they spend some good time together.
In the third mind travel he visited his daughter at her guest family in the exchange program. He told her how sorry he felt for his behaviour and that he did not mean to throw her out.
That was what the man really did after using FF!. He took some money of his savings and flew to visit his daughter.
Depending on your issue(s) in an actual crisis you can use this tool in self-coaching or better have the guidance of a coach in a face-to-face sesssion. It can be of great support in dealing with situations that bother you.
